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Posted on September 18, 2008
I include here a few more responses to my 9/11/08 newsletter Breast Implants for your Wife?. Our discussion via emailshas beenabout a Christian guy's responseto his wifeif she wanted to spend $5,000 on breast implants strictly forcosmetic purposes.

Theinitial first responses I received varied widely from favorable to against. The secondround of responses, however, decidedly leanedagainst such surgery. Here's some of what you husbands had to say: (Thanks for trusting me to keep your comments anonymous)

1) There is no way I would ever approve of my wife, my best friend, placing something into her body that could threaten her good health. There are too many stories about muffed boob jobs. I know two women who had failed procedures, and they both regret ever having it done. If she had a mastectomy and needed reconstructive surgery then that's a different matter. But not for cosmetic reasons.

2) My wife's body belongs to me, and mine belongs to her.Our bodies arenot our own. They belong to God and to each other. So, since I'd be against it,end of story. (Reader was referencing 1Corinthians 7:4)

3) My first wife came home one day and stated that she would like to have a boob job.A local doctorwas doing the surgeries one after another, and she had talked to some of her friends who had it done. I was unemployed at that time and asked my father for the front money for her. I did not tell him what it was for, just that it was a special gift for her.
After the surgery, I was the one who held her hand as she dealt with the pain. I was the one who carefully rubbed the cocoa butter on to help heal the scars. I worked odd jobs to make the first two payments. As soon as she had healed, she began a torrid affair with her boss and after a few months of a lot of hurtful games, we separated, then divorced. I had not considered her motivation for wanting the implants.

4) It just so happens that my wife is wanting implants right now. She isirkedbecause of my disapproval. She can't believe I'm so "insensitive" to her need for self esteem. It has driven us to seek counseling. I now see I should have beenmoreattentive to her needs over the years and building herself esteem. I'm making a concerted effort to do so now.I pray God willbring us into agreement on this and other matters.

As for my own views, read my 9/11/08 blog Bigger Boobs or More Inner Beauty. In aword what I say inthe blogis that our hyper-sexualized and materialistic idolatrous culture has radically biased our Christian life styles.As the years go by,we tend tounconsciously accept more worldlyviewpoints. It is the ole frog in the kettlesyndrome--whena frog is put in a pot of room temperature water,it will continue toremain inthe potprovided the water is slowly and gradually brought to a boil.

Our wildly erotic, pleasure-first culture is reason enough to take time to hear from God so that worldly values don't overwhelm us. To do this, we have to regularly get things quieton the outside toenable us tobe able get quiet on the inside.Then we can come intoHis presence byimmersing ourselves inHis autobiography(Isaiah 30:15).This is crucial in keepingthe world fromgaining control of our hearts.

When we holdour cultureat bay, we're much happier,treat bothfriend and foemuch better, and fulfill our God given purpose forhis placing uson the planet in the first place.

Here's how the Message Bible puts it: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won't be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace. (Matthew 6:6)

Men Who Win arerewardedas theyget tighterwith Him. Thanks again for your responses.

Bigger Boobs or More Inner Beauty
by Gary Chester

I've justre-read the responsesto my 9/11/08 newsletter question, what would a Christian guy's reaction be to his wife who wants breast implants.As I read them, Irecalledthis verse in the New Testament that to mehits home: Don't be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should be known for the
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