Breast Implants for your Wife - Your Responses

Posted on September 11, 2008
The Question:  If your wife came to you and said she wanted to spend roughly $5000 for breast implants, what would be your reaction?  I posed this question in a menwhowin.com newsletter a few weeks ago.  Your answers were as varied as colors in the rainbow.  Here are some of them:  

1. My sweetie has spent a fortune on make-up, hair color, hair perms, clothes, shoes, purses, and weight loss products in order to look good for me.  If she now wants to enlarge and raise her boobs a little, what's another $5,000? 

2. I would have to question my wife's motives.  I may find her motives may lie with me not building her self-esteem as I should, so that she feels beauitful and attractive just the way God has made her.  If I were building her esteem the way I should, then she'd know she did not need implants, and that I don't need her to have them either.

3. I would have to question my wife's motives.  I may find her motives may lie with me not building her self-esteem as I should, so that she feels beauitful and attractive just the way God has made her.  If I were building her esteem the way I should, then she'd know she did not need implants, and that I don't need her to have them either.

4. My first reaction would be what is her self-perception?  If she values herself only from the standpoint of what she looks like on the outside, then what about her heart?  If anything, a request from my wife would be a real sign of a much deeper issue.  I'd seriously pray for her and hope that her mind would change about her self image.

5. I don't think I'd care on a personal level one way or the other.  I love her the way God made her.  I'd also love her the way she'd "turn out" from cosmetic surgery.  Honestly though, I'd think it'd be just talk.  I don't think she'd want to pay for it!

6. I don't think I'd care on a personal level one way or the other.  I love her the way God made her.  I'd also love her the way she'd "turn out" from cosmetic surgery.  Honestly though, I'd think it'd be just talk.  I don't think she'd want to pay for it!

7. I think she'd be rejecting me and our marriage.  I might think her desire for a new look really is about also needing a new man.

8. Changing how she looks isn't going to change any feelings of unworthliness she has.  It could even worsen things.  I'd suggest counseling for her (and maybe also for me) to see what she's really wanting from surgery on a deeper level.

9. If more and more women get boob jobs, how will larger breasts be anything special to anybody?  It's like the pro baseball stars on steroids.  We're not witnessing natural abilities, so why be impressed with the athletes?  By the same token, if anyone can get any size or shape of breasts, what's the big deal anyway?  

10. Isn't interesting how we Americans are so fixated with boobs.  In Africa, women go bare breasted, and nobody pays them any mind.  It's all just a cultural thing that has duped us westerners.

11. If a man can get turned on by two bags of chemicals, it just proves our most powerful sex organ lies between our ears.

12. (FEMALE):  If I were to consider improving the size and shape of my breasts, I would get serious about an intense exercise program. Surgery with artificial implants would be my last option. I know many women who have chosen surgery, and all have had some kind of health problems directly or indirectly related to the implants.  Most of them, in my opinion, will never be satisfied with their physical bodies. I believe God gave each of us a special body to serve Him, and we are to take care of that body to the best of our abilities.

Now as far as my own personal views, read my 9/11/08 blog.  In it, I reference a scripture (1 Peter 3:3-4) that you may have never thought about in regard to this controversy over augmented cleavage. 

Listen to my 8 minute radio show:  Why No Fixation on Boobs in Africa.

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Bigger Boobs or More Inner Beauty

by Gary Chester

I've just re-read the responses to my 9/11/08 newsletter question, what would a Christian guy's reaction be to his wife who wants breast implants.  As I read them, I recalled this verse in the New Testament that to me hits home:   Don't be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.  You should be known for the     

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