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PORN - LIKE RATTLESNAKES AS PETS

Posted on March 13, 2008
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My friend, Clay Campbell, says looking at porn is like keeping rattlesnakes as pets.  Sooner or later, you'll get bitten.
 
Even some women are tempted to - and do - visit adult websites.  But for us guys, it is nearly irresistible. 
 
Statistic after statistic shows more than half of churched men recently have visited a porn site. (Read about my recent first experience with a porn site.) 
It's no wonder.  God created us to be triggered by the visual sight of a curvacious, babe-alicious female.  That's also the genetic factor that drives us to be intimate with our wives (a good thing!) and to propagate (another good thing).
 
But as a fireplace is warm and cozy but not when fire spreads to the carpet.  So is sex destructive on the internet carpet.  It has to be contained in the fireplace of the marital bed.  We Christian men believe this truth.  So did the great Christian thinker, Augustine (400AD), who wrote this about his own lust:
 
Because my will was perverse, it changed to lust, and lust, yielded to, became habit, and habit unresisted became necessity.  Thus I came to understand how the flesh lusts against the spirit, and the spirit against the flesh.
 
The influential Augustine was the first writer in ancient days known to openly and personally write about his personal struggles with sexual lust.  Like Augustine, we today recognize how sexual lust threatens not only our own well being but also, through the serious consequences of it, the well-being of our wives and children. 
 
We men want the blessings and favor of sexual purity, but the lure to visit porn sites is nearly irresistible for most of us unless -- unless we take drastic measures.
 
How drastic are you personally willing to be.  Eyeing the great rewards of inner joy and of being mega fruitful for God through sexual wellness, would you be willing to risk these things He might want for your protection:
 
  • A small, tight knit band of brothers (maybe just one) granting each other the right to call 24/7 for unannounced check-ins (as John Kennedy of SamsonSociety.org puts it).
  • Talking with and/or praying with a Silas partner weekly - maybe daily - on the phone or in person and being honest about any impure thoughts or any acting out.  Don't think of this as checking in with your parole officer.  It's instead having a dear and close friend whom God is using to strengthen and protect you, and you, him.  If you have the parole officer mind set, you're not getting it - the true principle behind a band of brothers.
  • If your wife is out of the city, having a friend confiscate your computer.
  • Download free and read the chapter, A Friend a Man Can Call at 2AM,from my book, Save the Males.
Because of our sex saturated digital universe, we cannot accomplish this on our own.  God gives us brothers who need each another to constantly remind ourselves of who we are in Christ - that we're in the fox hole together - and are truly are men who win - because of Christ's sacrifice for us on the Cross.
 
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