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Posted on October 8, 2009

Some men don't have much crank sexually? 
While most Christian guys are trying to control unhealthy sexual urges and influences, there is the husband who's not meeting his wife's sexual needs
(1 Cor 7:3-5)?   This may be more common than we might think.
But why is it that hardly anyone discusses the man with low libido?  One reason is that it seems unmanly if a guy isn't rived-up on demand.  Another reason is a wife might think herself abnormal to have more sexual drive than her man.  She might even self-doubt her femininity and sexual attractiveness.
From what I observe, and at times have personally experienced, a variety of things can diminish a husband's sexual drive:
A long-time porn and masturbation habit
A biological lack of testosterone
High blood pressure and other meds
Grieving over a severe loss - a person, job, or health (My father's suicide diminished my drive for a time)  
Prolonged job stress
A rupture of emotional intimacy with his wife
Emotional wounds from childhood molestation
 And it is possible, although probably uncommon, that a wife genetically can have more sexual drive than her husband. 
The good news:  A husband and wife who regularly and persistently come together in prayer about such issues will eventually be shown a mutually satisfying solution.  The solution may take time, but God is always faithful to two people coming together humbly in prayer before him.  Always!  (Matthew 18:19-20)
With persistence in prayer, God eventually will provide a solution that is tailor-made to an individual couple.  After all, we know from his Word that he is high on married love-making as pure enjoyment (Song of Songs chapters 3-5). 
God is always faithful to dispense wisdom (James 1:1-8).  His sure and true Word guarantees it.  So why wouldn't a husband and wife, who naturally desiring sexual enjoyment, together cry out to Him and fully expect a divine solution?  A man who wins discovers the faithfulness of God.
To get you started on the road to a great sexual relationship with your spouse, read the just published UnDefiled by Harry Schaumburg. I just finished it.  It's a worthwhile read for struggling couples.
Click Honesty Leads to More Sex  an 8 minute MP3 download of my Men Who Win radio show.

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