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WOMEN'S PORN - SHOPPING
Posted on July 31, 2008
Women in America spend roughly 86% of the money. Nothing is wrong with their shopping to find the best price or value on something they wish to purchase. This is my focus for my newsletter this week. Let me say I am for my own wife looking great and shopping for make up, clothes,shoes, home accessories etc. But a fine line exists between shopping and a shopping addiction. A shoppi...
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The Basic Motive for Success
Posted on July 24, 2008
There's something quite powerful within each person that spurs us on to seek worldly success -- the driving force of envy and jealousy.  This, according to Soloman, the world's wisest man (Ecclesiastes 4:4).  To achieve is worthy, but Soloman advises such a motive as envy behind the success is a waste.  It is like spitting into the wind.  When it's all about me as...
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SHE'S NO LONGER INTERESTED IN SEX
Posted on July 17, 2008
How does a man cope when his wife no longer is interested in sex due to a surgery that has caused permanent hormonal deficiency.  She used to love love-making and even liked to initiate it.  Today, although uninterested herself, she is understanding of his needs.   She loves her husband and still desires to take care of his physical n...
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When You're at a Standoff with Her
Posted on July 10, 2008
If you cannot agree on something with your wife or girlfriend, how do you get on the same page? Here's the strategy that ALWAYS works: Pray with her every day. This strategy of praying together often goes against the marital grain especially when a long-running spat keeps rearing its ugly head.  But prayer gets beautiful results in time. (Mat...
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PASSIONATE 20'S/30'S MEN Pt 2
Posted on June 26, 2008
(This is the second of two newsletters from a conversation that eight young passionate Christians recently had regarding faith and the young)   Sports, video games, and women most likely are the three top passions of today's American men in their 20's and 30's.     But exciting as sports, games and women are, they pale in comparis...
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PASSIONATE 20'S/30'S MEN Pt 1
Posted on June 20, 2008
(This is the first of two newsletters from a conversation that eight young passionate Christians recently had regarding faith and young men)   Young men's top three passions:  sports, video games, and women (not necessarily in that order).   These subjects may be what ignite the emotions and conversations of American guys in their 20's and 30's more than anyth...
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WHAT DADS CAN'T DO
Posted on June 12, 2008
Happy Father's Day! What Dads Can't Do - from the children's book by Douglas Woods: "There are things that regular people can do but dads can't. Dads can't cross the street without holding hands. They can push, but they can't swing. When dads play hide and seek they always get found, but they have a hard time finding you. It's a wonder they make it through life at all." John Fischer, Purpose Driv...
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IN 49 WORDS -- HOW TO DROP POUNDS
Posted on June 5, 2008
(I recognize this newsletter is out of my area of expertise, but I can't resist the temptation to weigh in on our culture's hot topic of losing weight) Here in 49 words is the bottom line of what a kajillion books essentially say about how to drop pounds: 1) Eat many many more dark green veggies and fresh fruits. 2) Eat far fewer light colored veggies and starches (breads, rice ...
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AN INNER CIRCLE - Optional or Crucial?
Posted on May 30, 2008
AN INNER CIRCLE - Optional or Crucial? menwhowin.com newsletter Hardly any Christian men have one, so why should you think you should personally invest in the time and risk of cultivating an inner circle of deep spirited friends? To answer the question, let's turn to some heroes of ours. Jesus had his own inner circle - John, Peter and James. King David had Jonathon. Paul relied on Timoth...
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GOT ANGER? NEED MILK STRATEGIES? Pt 2
Posted on May 22, 2008
GOT ANGER?  NEED MILK STRATEGIES? Pt 2   (Here are the final two strategies for anger control.  I talked about the first three in my 5/08/08 Men Who Win newsletter.)   Got anger?  Is it damaging your relationships with those you dearly love?  Need milk strategies?   Here are two of five strategies that will help transform how you&nb...
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GOT ANGER? NEED MILK STRATEGIES? Pt 1
Posted on May 8, 2008
Got anger?  Is it damaging your relationships with those you dearly love?  Need milk strategies?   Here are five strategies - three in this newsletter and two in the next one -- that will transform how you react to anger triggers.  (These strategies have worked for your fellow son-of-thunder here. Read my blog)   We first have...
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Bro, Pray This for Your Wife
Posted on April 24, 2008
Hey bros, pray this for your wife:   Father, I said, "Til death do us part" -- I want to mean it. Help me love you more than her, and her more than anyone or anything else. Help me bring her into Your presence today. Make us one, like You are three-in-one. I want to hear her, cherish her, and serve her -- So she would love You more and we can bring You gl...
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INDISPENSABLE TO SEXUAL LUST VICTORY
Posted on April 17, 2008
A woman's physical beauty has immense power.  It can sexually trigger a man.  God wired us that way.  And it's a very good thing.   But when a man conjures up desires of possession of a woman not his, somebody always is injured.  It's like fire out of the fireplace on the carpet.  It's like the nicotine in smokes - always harmful in nature alth...
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More Debt or More Happiness?
Posted on April 10, 2008
It is so easy to get caught up in the American lie that possessing more stuff gooses up happiness.  Advertising relentlessly bombards you with this same lie:  Hey, you're not yet satisfied.   So, no matter how much we may accumulate or spend, we always crave more.   But more things in of themselves does not make a man happier (Luke 12:21).  While it's true having a warm home, ample foo...
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GOD IN THE UNEXPECTED
Posted on March 27, 2008
Unexpected events are alway whacking us from out of left field.  Life is full of interruptions, setbacks, disappointments, and messes.  I used to hate them.   I'm more tolerable of them now, trying even to become more hospitable to them.   Author Mark Buchannan puts it this way:  " his purposes and his presence often come disguised...
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Hot This Year! - Messages of Hope
Posted on March 20, 2008
(This newsletter is a little off the beaten path for me.  It's a little controversial.  But am I on target?  gary@menwhowin.com)   Messages of hope have caught fire this year in America.  Hope is the message of a presidential candidate.  It is also the message of an extraordinarily popular pastor on national TV.  They've both struck a deep chord ...
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PORN - LIKE RATTLESNAKES AS PETS
Posted on March 13, 2008
The Men Who Win ministry has started to offer something new.  If you'd like for me to address a specific question you have, please email me. gary@menwhowin.com  I'll either respond in one of my newsletters or will have one of my ministry partners respond to you individually.  All inquiries will be kept confidential and anonymous.  We just want to assist ...
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YOUNG MEN - KEY TO CHRISTIANITY'S FUTURE
Posted on March 6, 2008
(I'd really like your response to this newsletter.  Do you feel I'm on target here or not?  Let me know, okay?  gary@menwhowin.com)   Young men are key to the future of Christianity in America and other western nations.  If they falter, American will continue to spiral downward into a modern day version of the lukewarm and stagnant believ...
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P.O.W.'S - MOST DREADED PUNISHMENT
Posted on February 28, 2008
A most dreaded punishment for prisoners of war (p.o.w.'s) is solitary confinement.  Isolation gets to a man.  It screws up his thinking.  It breaks him.  The same is true for us soldiers and followers of Christ today.   So, why do men fail to connect on real friendship level?  Our culture discourages it everywhere.  Think about the typical image ...
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UMAMERICAN - REAL MASCULINE FRIENDSHIPS
Posted on February 21, 2008
Imagine yourself hiking solo in a mountain forest on a harsh wintry evening.  You realize you're lost.  You reach for your compass.  Oops, you left it behind at the house.  Night is drawing near.  Fear starts to set in.  Now what?  You're isolated and disconnected.  You desperately wish you had help.  Well, that's a man in life without ...
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First Valentine's Day - An Execution
Posted on February 14, 2008
An execution started what we call Valentine's Day.  It occurred in ancient times (269AD) when Valentinus, a Christian leader in Rome, was conducting secret marriages for followers of Christ.    The secret covenants ticked off Claudius the Cruel, the Roman Emperor at that time.  He had outlawed marriages.  But Valentinus recognized the ...
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AN UNUSUAL MIRACLE PERFORMING GUY IN TOWN
Posted on February 7, 2008
Imagine this scenario in your town.   You've been hearing about an ordinary looking but unusual man in the town you live in.  You understand this guy's got a savior complex, says he has the power to forgive you personally of all your sins.    This savior talking dude also even goes as far as to say if you'd give up everything to follow him, he'll ...
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Hating Lawyer's Offices - Disagreeing Part 2
Posted on January 31, 2008
My wife, Ro, and I don't argue.  But we do sometimes have intense fellowship.    This joke points out that in our disagreements the focus should be on preserving at all costs the relationship between us.   Some years ago, Denver researchers released findings of a study showing that how a couple settles disagreements determines more ...
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Disagreeing - Part 1
Posted on January 24, 2008
There is a 50% divorce rate in America. Divorce comes from unresolved disagreements between you and the woman you took for better or worse. I get asked about building better marriages a lot, so in the next two weeks newsletters and blog post I will explain how my bride of twenty years and I resolve our disagreements ( And lived happily ever after)   HIM:  You mean ...
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The Lifetime Impact of Your Dad
Posted on January 17, 2008
How a father handles a boy's heart impacts his life all his years.   If you have a serious father wound (as John Eldredge calls it), you're living the consequences of it every day.  A father wound is when you didn't get what you needed from your Dad growing up.  Specifically, his loving, affirming approval of you.   Even Jesus needed his Father's aff...
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