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WHAT TO ADVISE A PORN USER'S WIFE
Posted on January 22, 2009
My reader, I'd like your response to this Christian wife's dilemma. She's an acquaintance of my wife's. She tells my wife she has caught her husband (whom I personally don't know) on a porn site. The husband refuses to talk about it, says it's nothing. But she feels betrayed and violated. What should she do regarding her husband? He is, by the way, active in their chu...
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SATAN BARKS ORDERS FROM NEARBY FIELD
Posted on January 14, 2009
In my life, there is no doubt that the devil's power has been broken (Romans 6:6-7), but his presence is still a reality.  His power is broken, but is still present.  (Read my 1/15/09 blog The Devil Trying to Kick my Butt) Even after Jesus' own victory over Satan's temptation in the desert, the Bible records that the devil "left Jesus until another opportunity" (Lu...
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THE REALITY OF A REAL DEVIL
Posted on January 8, 2009
Most people believe the devil  is really just symbolic of evil, not a real fallen angel who's the sum of all that heinous and hellish. They think of him as an imaginary, little freakish-looking guy with a fork. If we believe the Bible is God's sure and true Word, then we have to believe in the reality of a true Satan whose fury is relentless to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). ...
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BEFORE YOUR TRAIN WRECK OCCURS
Posted on January 2, 2009
Get ready.  If a train wreck already hasn't occurred to you - economic reversal, illness, loss of a loved one, family problem - you'd better get prepared.  The train wreck that could change your life is ahead.  This is not gloom and gloom on my part.**  This is just life.  And it can be good.   Unexpected land mines are just a fact of life for everyone.  This is the reason we need ...
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CRITICAL STRATEGY TO 2009 JOY
Posted on December 26, 2008
Here is your critical strategy to joy in '09.  This is a sure, true game plan, despite the nation's money meltdown, your own personal meltdown, and whatever else that could rob you of your joy.   FOCUS ON OTHERS, not yourself.  (Philippians 2:3-4)   There it is - Joy for the New Year.   People who are sold out to that which is greater than themselves - helping family and ...
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Christmas Makes Me Unafraid
Posted on December 18, 2008
I write this Christmas piece the day before my end-of-the-year, follow-up PET scan and brain MRI.  The tests are to assess the status of my lymphoma that has been in remission for a year and a half.   Christmas tells me that I can be more brave about this, and that you too, can be brave in your struggles.  Christmas tells us not to be afraid because God has become one of us.  His ...
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A CLEANSED IMAGINATION
Posted on December 11, 2008
I received two powerful responses from my 12/4/04 blog about so many Christian men's battles against unwanted memories of experiences from either past sexual encounters or porn habits.  I think you'll find them quite effective.   Here's one from Randall Staley in London UK:   You requested solutions for the return of unwanted images of either porn or past sexual encounters.  What I...
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CANCER - PORN - HEALTH - GODLINESS
Posted on December 4, 2008
As cancer is to the body, porn is to the soul. As health is to the body, godliness is to the soul. This thought that I read sometime ago spoke to the fabric of my inner being.  I want to pass it along to you along with a splash of hope. I've personally had encounters with cancer (in remission), porn (previous habit); health (presently good), and godliness (in progress - ...
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MY SEVEN MEGA-THANKSGIVINGS
Posted on November 26, 2008
At this Thanksgiving, I'm grateful for the Christ who: -Shows me how far he'll go to rescue me from dark  places I'll go. -Empowers me to let go of my guilt and shame so I  don't continue to do the same destructive things. -Loves me until I can finally love  myself. -Knocks the devil off when he gets on my  back. -Comforts me when I'm in meltdown and strugg...
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A BORN AGAIN TEST
Posted on November 20, 2008
How do we know if we're a child of God?  Jesus phrased it born again.  Paul used the term a new creation in the Holy Spirit?   In other words, how can we know if we are truly saved?   We can ask ourselves some questions to help us assess if we're a new creation in Christ:   1) Do I tend to want to stay clear of conversations about Christ?   2) Does my desire for success...
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THREE THINGS MEN WANT
Posted on November 13, 2008
Guest newsletter by Clay Campbell Three things that men want usually is simple.  Five things that are important to women gets more complicated.   The Man's Three: 1.    Food - A man can go out and kill something and drag it home but (in most cases) he wants the woman to cook it. 2.    Sex - He wants sex as a dog wants water. He needs it mentally, physically, emotionally...
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Election Over, God's Still in Charge
Posted on November 6, 2008
No matter how you're feeling about Tuesday's election -- relieved, fearful, upset, joyful -- you can take comfort in these verses from God's auto-biography: God changes times and seasons. He guides history. World events are under his control. (Daniel 2:21 NIV, NLT, LB) The king's heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord; he turns it wherever he pleases. (Proverbs 21:1 NLT) Re...
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HOW LONG DOES THE USA HAVE?
Posted on October 30, 2008
With Election Day being Tuesday, have you ever pondered this thought:  How long does the USA have as a free country? Hundreds of years?  Only a few more decades?  (Read my 10/30/08 blog, When the World's Turbulence Strikes Fear) Around 200 years ago, about the time of the USA's beginning, a Scottish history professor, Alexander Tyler, wrote:**  "A democracy is always tempor...
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Sex That's Gone Flat
Posted on October 23, 2008
After years of marriage, sex can go flat - like a Pepsi that's lost its fizz.  It can become like a bologna sandwich - BORING.  This occurs even in strong Christian marriages where, according to various studies, the success rate for satisfying sex ranks higher than in marriages that are not strongly faith based. Make-believe Hollywood touts sex as a supreme God - always full of hi...
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Exactly What Is Christian Fellowship?
Posted on October 16, 2008
The way I see it, a group of more than a handful of men is not Christian fellowship.  Why?  In a larger group, we guys don't get real with one another.  We tend to have on our game faces.  We don't open up.  We don't reveal our inner struggles (yeah, we all have them). So what's the point of superficial, casual conversation?  How is that experiencing real life?  Jesus chose twelve t...
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I, TOO, HAVE A DREAM
Posted on October 9, 2008
I have a dream that relates to those of us who love Christ and deeply desire to be in His will and purpose. I have the dream That our present financial crisis will result in our ceasing to quibble over piddly theological issues that only upset us and cause fights (2 Timothy 2:23). That we start to turn away from our gods of pleasure, eroticism, and materialistic idolatry (2 Ch...
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BANK BUSTS & GOVERNMENT BAIL-OUTS
Posted on October 3, 2008
Americans are reeling form recent mega bank busts and proposed unimaginable massive government bail-outs.   My own 401Ks this year have dropped 25% in value. Whew!  (Read my blog 401Ks - Today's Golden Idol).    If my identity in Christ wasn't strong (Romans 12:3), I might be more antsy. But I turned today to Daniel 2:21 for God's big picture perspective: He changes times and...
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Yearnings Greater than Earnings
Posted on September 25, 2008
by Jeremy L. White, CPA An old saying states a surprising truth: "The quickest way to bankruptcy is an increase in pay." As 12-year old baseball fan, I still remember hearing about a player on my favorite team. He had signed a million-dollar contract. I couldn't imagine that someone was paid that much to play ball! That's small by today's standards where the avera...
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MORE RESPONSES - BREAST IMPLANTS FOR YOUR WIFE
Posted on September 18, 2008
I include here a few more responses to my 9/11/08 newsletter Breast Implants for your Wife?.  Our discussion via emails has been about a Christian guy's response to his wife if she wanted to spend $5,000 on breast implants strictly for cosmetic purposes. The initial first responses I received varied widely from favorable to against.  The second round of responses, however, decidedl...
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Breast Implants for your Wife - Your Responses
Posted on September 11, 2008
The Question:  If your wife came to you and said she wanted to spend roughly $5000 for breast implants, what would be your reaction?  I posed this question in a menwhowin.com newsletter a few weeks ago.  Your answers were as varied as colors in the rainbow.  Here are some of them:   1. My sweetie has spent a fortune on make-up, hair color, hair perms, clothes, shoes, purses, and w...
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When Our Hands Are Tied
Posted on September 4, 2008
My follow-up to your responses to my recent newsletter "Breast Implants for Your Wife" will be 9/11/08.  Coming up soon in a future newsletter:  "Her Biting Tongue - How to Respond"  What do you do when something's totally out of our control - an incurable disease; a lifelong consequence of an accident; a precious loved one who's in harm's way?  (Read my 9/4...
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WHEN FEAR STRIKES
Posted on August 28, 2008
We guys tend to try to hide our fears by putting on our game faces --our big false fronts of being 10' tall and bullet proof. For instance, I personally am now concerned about a left field development in my life. (Read my 8/28/08 blog In the Shadow of the Big C).  So, I've made a few tight buds and family members aware of it so that they will pray for me. I love it tha...
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Breast Implants for YOUR Wife?
Posted on August 21, 2008
If your wife came to you and announced she wanted to get breast implants, what would be your response?  Excited?  Turned on?  Turned off? Feeling betrayed?  Other?   In today's hyper-erotic culture. more Christian women are plopping down around $5,000 for the surgery.  But how do we Christian husbands feel about it when it com...
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WHITE HATS GUYS HAVE SMOOTHER TRAVELING
Posted on August 14, 2008
We sometimes tend to think the bad guys have it easier than we men trying to do the right thing.    It seems the ones who are obviously corrupt - by the things they do and say -- get away with a ton of badness and too often come out on top in business, sports, and even relationships.  (Nice guys finish last last, as they say?)  Because of t...
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WHY WE MEN DISS COUNSELING
Posted on August 7, 2008
When a certain unresolved issue continues to fester in a marriage, it is like a sore that needs cleaning and ointment to get well.  Wounds in our marriages could heal more quickly, and we could be much happier if we were open to cleaning and ointment -- that is, counseling.  But we guys will hardly consider cle...
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